{"id":123,"date":"2024-05-28T01:24:00","date_gmt":"2024-05-28T01:24:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/?p=123"},"modified":"2024-04-13T10:04:20","modified_gmt":"2024-04-13T10:04:20","slug":"first-comes-love-then-comes-marriage-eighth-daily-dose-of-third-times-the-charm","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/?p=123","title":{"rendered":"First Comes Love . . . then Comes Marriage [eighth daily dose of Third Time&#8217;s the Charm]"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>By 1993 we had built a political dynasty, and it was time to get me elected Mayor.&nbsp;&nbsp; No, I\u2019m just kidding, you don\u2019t build a political dynasty just being girlfriend &amp; boyfriend serving one year together in the Legislature.&nbsp; The reason I threw my hat in the ring was to break my glass ceiling.&nbsp; A glass ceiling is usually associated with being a woman and having an artificial limit on how high you can rise, despite your ability, based upon your gender.&nbsp; My glass ceiling was being thought of as too left-wing, too much talk and not enough action [not true], and although maybe a good fit for his liberal district, not a mentionable for higher office.&nbsp; I wanted to smash that glass ceiling, have all the world get to know who I am and all my accomplishments. . . . but in the end all I did was reinforce my glass ceiling, which turned out to be a lucky thing.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_53\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/MayoralDebate.jpg\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-53\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-53 \" style=\"margin: 5px;\" src=\"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/MayoralDebate-300x244.jpg\" alt=\"MayoralDebate\" width=\"300\" height=\"244\" srcset=\"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/MayoralDebate-300x244.jpg 300w, http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/MayoralDebate-367x300.jpg 367w, http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/12\/MayoralDebate.jpg 390w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-53\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">1993 Mayoral Debate: Andy Dawkins, John Manillo, Ray Faricy, Norm Coleman, Jerry Isaacs, Marlene Johnson<\/p><\/div>\n<p>It was a spirited Mayoral Race almost all the way to the wire.&nbsp; I was leading all the way up until two days before the September primary election.&nbsp; On that fateful Sunday a famous radio personality, known for interviewing guests in her hot tub, was the emcee of a prime time mayoral debate on TV before a live audience.&nbsp; All 7 of us were given a green and red placard.&nbsp; The green side spelled out YES in big letters; the red side had NO.&nbsp; Right away rapid fire questions.&nbsp; The fifth question:&nbsp; \u201cHave you smoked marijuana in the past 2 years?\u201d&nbsp; I was the only one who held up green.&nbsp; No gasps from anybody and the next questions quickly followed.<\/p>\n<p>But by that night it had become a big deal.&nbsp; At my next campaign event (getting endorsed by the Black Police Officers Assn.) I was met by reporters from every major media outlet:&nbsp; When did you smoke marijuana?&nbsp; How often?&nbsp; Where?&nbsp; Any regrets?&nbsp; Other drugs? Etc.&nbsp; I answered honestly:&nbsp; \u201conly a couple times at some party where people were passing around a joint.\u201d&nbsp; It was THE story all the way to the polls 36 hours later.&nbsp; On every radio station.&nbsp; On the front page.&nbsp; A political cartoon with my volunteer shirts saying \u201cDawkins Delivers.\u201d&nbsp; I always suspected it was a planted question.&nbsp; To this day I have only two major regrets in my life (both deal with smoking):&nbsp; smoking cigarets and not dropping that frigging sign and saying \u201cDumb question.&nbsp; Move on.\u201d&nbsp;&nbsp; How I started smoking and my Mark Twain method of quitting are a different story; also a full-length version of The Race for Mayor is in the appendix to the hard copy of this book because it was such a pivotal point in my life with so much more dynamics and investment of effort by me and others that the (two times) smoking pot should have been dwarfed.&nbsp; For now suffice to say I came in Second.<\/p>\n<p>Second turned out to be terrific all in itself.&nbsp; During the campaign I had fallen in love.&nbsp; Two weeks later I proposed to El, my best campaign volunteer, kneeling in the waters off Madiera Beach.&nbsp; I woke-up that day having been thinking for two straight weeks:&nbsp; \u201cYes, I\u2019d hoped to be the Mayor for all the kids in the City, being single and working every moment, but you know what, it\u2019s time to get married and start a family.\u201d&nbsp; I got out of bed, went across the street to buy a ring; YES! she said.<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\">Tomorrow:&nbsp; How my BB bat was saved<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By 1993 we had built a political dynasty, and it was time to get me elected Mayor.&nbsp;&nbsp; No, I\u2019m just kidding, you don\u2019t build a political dynasty just being girlfriend &amp; boyfriend serving one year together in the Legislature.&nbsp; The &hellip; <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/?p=123\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[8],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/123"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=123"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/123\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3166,"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/123\/revisions\/3166"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=123"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=123"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/andydawkins.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=123"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}